I could use some advice here…
Let’s talk about Tom, Dick and Jane. Me, I’m Tom….. Jane was my girlfriend for a year and a half. Things werent working out between us, so we broke up late december (actually, 2 days before newyears I believe..Pretty sucky, eh?)…..
Well, 3 Months later, Dick, one of My best friends decided to start Dating Jane. I had suspected Jane of having feelings for dick before we broke up. I noticed her paying more attention to him than me, if we were alone and intimate and he called, she would sit on the phone talking to him, etc… I guess this would suck but wouldn’t be so bad if I had known about it but I just found out LAST NIGHT! (8 months into their relationship).
Now, 2 days ago (or so) I asked Jane if she was with Dick and she kinda gave me a look. I said I assumed that was a yes, and aparently she took it that way. Making sure not to say that they were together she assured me that while feelings had developed that they took my feelings into consideration. The way she told me all this, I felt like they didn’t go out due to their respect for my feelings…. I found out last night from a mutual friend that they were dating and when I called dick he told me they had been for the past 8 months or so. I give him credit for not lying to me when asked, but he claims he never told me cuz he thought I knew….But he had NEVER mentioned anything to me.
I really don’t know what to do now. I am pissed at him and her for going behind my back like that. I was still in love with her when he started dating her, and now, to find all this out I feel incredibly backstabbed. She’s completely out of the picture now. I wanted to try to build up a friendship with her, but now thats not going to happen. My question, should I keep him as a friend? Any advice is greatly appreciated